5 Ways To Raise Your Children

Raising your children involves changing your habits and attitudes. How can you ask your children to do the right thing if you do not? How can you ask them to be respectful if you are disrespectful yourself?

It is best to set a good example. For your children, it is worth thousands of lessons to see how you behave.

Raising your children is not easy

You may have asked yourself what you can do to help your children become good parents when that time comes? This brings us back to the question: what exactly is a good upbringing?

We must first try to become better individuals and parents ourselves. Man is a work in progress: we can always improve ourselves.

The children notice how we behave. Being a parent means that you see yourself as a role model.

Here are some tips for raising your children from the book La Crianza Feliz (Happy Upbringing) by Spanish author and parenting expert Rosa Jove.

Avoid “adultcentrism”

“Adult Centrism” is when adults think they are superior to their children, and should have more rights than them.

This leads to upbringing based on blind obedience, and the idea that the rules must be extremely hierarchical.

According to this type of thinking, parents are never wrong, and if they are wrong, they must hide it. And if their mistakes are too obvious to hide, they just make excuses. All so as not to have to apologize.

Many parents still believe that they know best themselves. They do not listen to the amazing ideas that their children give them.

Remember that a family should not attack or defend each other, but talk and understand each other.

So do not be afraid to admit when you are wrong to try to solve the problem. It is a good upbringing, and you will help your child grow up and become a humble person.

To raise your children, you need to understand them

From the age of 2 to 4, we need to make it very clear to our children that we understand them, even if we do not always accept their actions.

It is during this period that children begin to develop their independence. They may therefore try to do everything themselves, or contradict you.

We need to understand that before we try to correct their behavior. Even if what they say goes against our principles, they do not do it just to annoy us. They try new things and experiment with their surroundings.

Let them experiment and learn things for themselves. It will help them grow up and become safe and independent people.

Share habits and routines

Learning to take a bath, cook a meal or clean up is important.

Psychologist Rosa Jove recommends that we only try to build habits when a task is important and when it is possible to teach your child to do it in a fun and motivating way.

She also explains that the father should participate actively in the household. It is not only important for a couple’s balance between work and home, but also sets the children a positive example.

An image that has gone viral on social media is a photo that shows boys playing with dolls, feeding them and carrying them with them.

The text below asks sarcastically: So you let your children play with dolls? Are you not afraid that they may become good parents?

Horizontal leadership helps you raise your children properly

There are two types of leadership: one is exercised by force and is hierarchical. In parenting, vertical leadership is based on the adult’s belief that “I am right and my child is not.”

A parent who is a vertical leader tries to teach bad behavior through routines or punishment.

Horizontal leadership is when we work together with our children, shoulder to shoulder.

It is based on the idea that when the child makes a mistake, we can point out what he did well and guide him to do better next time. There is always a positive side; you just have to look for it.

If your children can learn from the situation and you guide them, praise them for what is good about their actions, they will be able to consciously change their behavior.

Show respect to get respect

An adult must never be disrespectful to a child. If you let the adults be disrespectful, you have to accept when the children are. And no one has the right to treat others with disrespect.

No matter what happens, we are parents and we try to raise our children to adopt our strongest values.

If we want to teach them to respect others, we can not be disrespectful to them when it suits us. If we do, they will do the same.

Children will often (but not always) imitate their parents. It is therefore important that you raise them with respect.

Explain what you expect from them and give an example: “I’m angry too, but I’m not behaving that way.