Since You Came Into My Life I Sleep Less, But Smile More

Since you came into my life, you have turned it upside down, turned my heart 180º towards intense and enriching happiness. You’ve taken hours of sleep from me, though

I not only breathe, but live in a world that is more intense, more conscious and more colorful. We know that many new parents experience the same thing.

It is as if something has kept the little nuances that come with one’s children’s secrets secret. Lack of sleep, fears, milk secretion, cramps and crying from the baby were hidden away in the small print. And not everyone reads it when deciding to have a child.

But none of that matters. There are always both easier and harder days. The important thing is to know how to read the newborn’s needs, and above all to enjoy it. That is exactly what is explained in the book The Concept of the Continuum by Jean Liedloff.

When a baby is born, many parents have their own predetermined plans for how to raise it. But parenting is not a plan. The rules suggested to us by our own parents, siblings or friends are not always the right ones for our particular child.

It’s about living day by day, moment by moment, with the baby, and following our instincts to respond in the best possible way.

In the same way, it is important to remember that the first years of our children’s lives are a “continuum”, just as Dr. Liedloff explains. A continuum between the mother’s body and her baby. The only thing that counts is the physical and emotional closeness, the contact, the skin, the cuddling, the looks…

And yes, it can be exhausting, very exhausting, but also incredibly satisfying.

I smile more because I know I’m doing well

Sometimes I smile when I see a face in the mirror I barely recognize… Is that where I am? Is that woman really me? The dark circles under the eyes, are they mine? How long has it been since I picked up my hairbrush? Since when have I neglected my appearance?

After thinking about it every time you encounter your reflection in the mirror, you let out a long sigh and attach the fleeing lid behind the ear. “Even then?”, You say to yourself. “Who cares what I look like if my baby is okay and if I do a good job as a mom?”

A mother who is proud of her baby is not aware of the deep exhaustion she has accumulated

The birth of a child activates alarm mechanisms in the mother’s brain that suddenly make her unaware of her own physical needs.

• It is a natural mechanism that ensures proper attention and care of the child. But we must be careful not to neglect ourselves, because we must not go into the wall either.
• When the body and brain accumulate too many hours of constant effort, we can become unconsciously stressed. And it can seriously affect health.
• That is why it is important to share information. Fathers can also help raise their children. A father can do exactly the same tasks as a mother, with breastfeeding being the only exception.
• Let us fully enjoy parenting by not only sharing the responsibility but also the fatigue. Let the dark circles hit both. Let us balance exhaustion with equal happiness, anxiety with smiles.

So remember: you’re doing a great job with your baby, no doubt about it. But never neglect yourself in the process. When you have children, you get more tired, but it is also true that you smile more.

Since I got you by my side, positive emotions have been a part of me

Being a mom or dad changes certain structures in the brain – we know that. The extra dose of oxytocin not only makes us more protective, more sensitive to our children’s needs, but also helps us improve aspects that make us better people.

These include empathy, the pursuit of success, resilience, dreams and even the need to nurture certain values ​​that make the world a better place.

Ever since your baby was born, you have turned your weaknesses into strengths. The simple act of hugging your child gives you a smile. Do not forget that when you smile more, it is not only a reflection of your inner well-being, but also a stronger light that guides your child.

Smiles are significant gestures that guide your child to proper social behavior, communication and affection for other beings. Your beautiful smile conveys love and recognition that helps your child create a strong bond.