How To Handle An Overly Motherly Child
If your child is about two years old, it probably does not want to be away from you even for a minute. Every time you can not be together, it becomes drama. If you experience this, you currently have a mother child. Do you know why?
What characterizes a motherly child?
We can say that a child is motherly when it has sufficient physical autonomy to be able to move, but it still looks for its mother and cannot tolerate separation from her.
The child does it even though it may be with other people he trusts.
Babies cannot support themselves and they need protection from their parents, especially during the first months. Mothers become the world of their babies, the divs they turn to.
But as children grow and acquire new skills, they should need less help and become more independent.
When does the phenomenon occur?
You may well have a mother child between 10-18 months of age. During that phase, children become more self-aware and autonomous.
This means that they can already walk, run and get around. Their main purpose is to explore the world around them, always with their mother.
The next phase occurs a little later, especially between the ages of 2-3 years. Children begin to interact with their world and the people who live in it. It includes meeting many new people. They feel comfortable as long as their mother is around to give them security.
Finally, you can experience a motherly child again between the ages of 4-5. During this phase, they want to do everything with their mother. Go shopping with mom, cook with mom… it is a kind of “love” in mom.
In addition to these maternal phases that all children go through, there are times when they may also experience a relapse after leaving the period.
It occurs in a moment of insecurity where they cling to their mother to try to regain their inner stability.
There are many factors that can lead to excessive motherhood. Some depend on the growth cycle the children go through; others are for external reasons, such as illness or jealousy upon the arrival of a new sibling.
The good news is that it usually is temporary and the episodes are easy to solve.
What can be done when children are acutely breastfeeding?
The solution is simply patience and common sense.
We need to help them regain their self-confidence so that they can feel comfortable with other people.
It is also very important that they learn to be alone with dad or with their grandparents, so we must allow them to be with other people.
First, they can try to do fun things like play or read fairy tales, and after a few days, they will feel comfortable with other routine activities as well.
The best way to build children’s independence at a young age is to play with them.
You can start playing with your children with colored balls, puzzles or whatever you know they like. When they are maintained, you can get up and move a few inches away. Later you can move one meter away.
You have to keep talking to them all the time, so they know you’re still around. It is simply a matter of love and a lot of patience.
What to never do…
Of course, fathers also suffer from motherhood. It’s tough for them that the child just wants to be with their mother. At that age, children are still unaware that refusing to be with their fathers can hurt their feelings.
They still have not developed empathy. In other words, they can not put themselves in other people’s shoes. It’s just that with mom it’s getting easier.
Do not think that children deliberately reject other people when they go through a maternal phase. Also have understanding for family members, grandparents and more, who may feel hurt by the situation.
Finally, we want to make it clear that the establishment of a strong, comfortable and loving bond between mother and child promotes the optimal development of the child for the rest of life.
