Spending Time With Other Mothers Is Not Only Fun, It’s Important!

Being a mother is not easy. Sometimes it is important to get out, drink a cup of coffee and spend time with other mothers. In this article, we go into detail on why that is.

Even in the best of circumstances, mothers face problems and challenges every day. Stress is a natural reaction to the physical and emotional pressure, from ourselves and from the environment.

When a mother’s stress level pushes through the roof, it affects everyone around her – especially her young children. Studies have shown that a mother’s stress also affects the fetus when it is in the womb.

Stress in itself is not a bad thing. Experts in the subject claim that an optimal stress level activates us and gives us energy, and stress is therefore important.

Of course, the amount of stress one can tolerate varies from person to person. Problems simply arise when the stress becomes too great and thus harmful. Especially stress from things that we can not influence ourselves is very harmful.

Most mothers feel that there are not enough hours in the day. They often feel that they are always a little late, and that it is difficult to balance all areas of responsibility.

This is especially true for working mothers. There is also a name for this phenomenon when it gets really bad: it is called burnout.

It’s hard to be a mother

Educating and raising children from birth until they become independent adults is a great responsibility. But what we often fail to realize is that most of the dilemmas and problems we face are common to all mothers.

In other words, most mothers share, at one time or another, the same fears and frustrations that you do. For example:

• A feeling of exhaustion, with an inability to identify or express the emotions that come with it
• Difficulty understanding children’s personalities

• The feeling that motherhood does not match the life you dreamed of living
• A lack of connection to his partner
• Difficulties during the children’s different developmental stages
• The impossible image of “the perfect mother”
• Feelings of guilt that come with each of your decisions
• Fear of failing and making mistakes

Therefore, it is important to spread awareness by creating good meeting places based on respect and support. These give mothers the opportunity to spend time with other mothers and share their life stories and shared experiences.

You feel a certain relief when you realize that you are not alone – that someone else understands what it is like. You also hear about new ways of dealing with different challenges and other solutions to daily conflicts.

These support groups for mothers are places where you can spend time with other mothers. They are based on discussions and exchanges, while realizing that each experience is unique and individual.

What is a mother group?

A mother group can also go by the name parent group or baby group and is often organized by BVC or via open preschool. Many are also organized on private initiatives via Facebook and other social media.

Mothers often contact these groups while they are still pregnant, or shortly after their baby is born.

Participants can gather and take care of their children while talking about joys and difficulties in life with a newborn. The friendships that come out of this often become long-lasting and meaningful both for the mothers and for the children.

Where do these mothers meet? It is important that the meetings do not take place in a clinical environment. Rather, the atmosphere should be informal, warm, soothing and inviting.

Of course, mothers need free access to and help from a nurse as needed, for example through BVC. If older children are present, the meeting place must also be able to meet their needs and safety.

Ideally, participation in these groups should be free. Mothers from all economic backgrounds have a need to spend time with other mothers.

In addition, a change in your finances should not mean that you lose your support team.

Where can I find a mother group?

Unfortunately, these groups are not always easy to find, especially in smaller cities. Even if you do not find an official group, you can spend time with mothers you already know and who share your views on motherhood and parenting.

Spending time with other mothers and sharing common experiences will surely deepen the relationship you already have.

Keep your childless friends

But also spending time with a friend who does not have children is good. As mothers, we sometimes need a little fresh air, a distraction and a little variety in the conversation.

Whether we like it or not, it takes a lot of time to be a mother. Suddenly, our world is focused on the small life, and we put aside many previous priorities.

It is very common for us as mothers to give up our friends who do not have children.

This does not necessarily mean that we no longer have anything in common with them. We can find a million other things to talk about, if we just try.

But the lifestyle change that the role of mother requires can often affect our relationships. When we have children, our priorities change – rightly – and our children must come first.

But we still have to find time for our friends. Spending time with others – whether they have children or not – is a healthy and much-needed way to spend time.