You Are Your Child’s Home

You are your child’s home, its small and magical universe. You are its source of nourishment, its refuge and its endless access to tenderness. You are everything to your child.

At the same time – thanks to your child, your life overflows with joy, hopes, dreams and feelings that you have never felt before.

According to a study published in the scientific journal LiveScience, motherhood is unique and exceptional for several reasons.

So much so that we often do not really understand how many changes take place inside us when we become mothers. Our bodies, our brains and also how we see the world – everything changes.

It is important to remember that parenting is a special time for men as well. Fathers often become sensitive during their partner’s pregnancy, aware that they will soon have a new life in their arms.

All this, strangely enough, does not always lead to the joy and happiness that one might expect.

Mary Kimmel, director of the perinatal psychiatric inpatient ward at Chapel Hills School of Medicine at the University of North Carolina, and professor of psychology at the same department, is working on this issue.

She says that many women experience fear during pregnancy. They ask themselves if they will be able to handle it all, and they worry about their personal and financial stability.

Sometimes they even worry that the relationship with the child’s father will end. An expectant mother may wonder if she and her children will be able to count on support from family and friends.

The fact that we mean everything to our little ones, sometimes fills us with joy and amazement. But sometimes the same thought will torment us with worry and anxiety. You should know that this is normal, logical and even standard.

Having a child is not just a responsibility – it takes courage. It means having to confront life even in the most difficult moments. Because you are your child’s home, its refuge, and its link to the world.

I’m your child, I was shaped inside you, I know your feelings… so do not be afraid

Do not be afraid. There is no need to worry about the future. Your present, your here and now, is filled with happiness and hope.

Do not let fear and uncertainty weigh on your heart. The stress that we sometimes experience as mothers reaches into the calm environment of the womb. The cortisol in our blood impregnates the amniotic fluid that surrounds our future children.

It is not just the food we eat that affects a growing fetus. What you feel, what you experience, the times you laugh and the times you cry, reach your child like an echo. They are like invisible nutrients and caresses that follow your baby’s maturation process in every step.

So remember, mom, your child wants you to be happy. It wants you to wake up every day of your life full of dreams, ideas and hopes. Your child wants you to be ready and eager to take on new challenges.

Your child knows who you are; that you are brave and able to take on anything that comes your way. All it sees is a beautiful woman who knows what she wants and what she does not want for her beloved child.

Never forget how important it is that you take care of yourself every day, and that you also take care of your own feelings and your well-being. Taking care of yourself will give you the opportunity to give your best to your children.

You will always be your child’s home

It is said that we carry our children in our stomachs for nine months, in our arms for three years, and in our hearts forever.

You are your child’s home. That mentality does not make you overprotective, nor does it make the bond between mother and child toxic.

For the wisest type of home, it is whose doors are always open. It is a home whose inhabitants are free to come and go as they please. And at the same time, they are always welcome back.

However, as parents, we must remember that this home is never more important than when our children are young. It is during the early years that the ties must be tied.

The first stage of your baby’s life is called exogestation, which means maturation outside the womb, and it lasts for several years after the baby is born.

Children need our physical closeness during this time more than any other period in their lives. Our skin, our caresses and our words create an invisible “womb” that envelops our children as they continue to grow.

And when the time comes, our children will take the step out to freedom, independence and movement.

Never forget that you are your child’s home; even if it can not express it in words, you are all for it. You are its source of nourishment, its warmth, its knee where it falls asleep, and its breast where it will grow and mature.

So make it a priority to take care of yourself. Be happy, be brave, and build yourself into the kind of person your child loves and deserves.